Ringneck said:GGNez said:To stop talking to female coworkers or connecting with them on a personal level of any sort would be the equivalent of this:
A flag is thrown and a player is penalized for excessive celebration. He decides that, from that point forward, he will no longer celebrate when his team wins. He won't express happiness if he makes a game-winning touchdown reception. He will refrain from expressing joy when his team gets a first down.
Or, a wide receiver jumps the gun and is charged with a false start. From then on, he chooses to never step foot past the line of scrimmage - just too risky.
This is where we are on this sexism discussion. On one extreme end, we have a few refs out there throwing flags willy-nilly because they just KNOW that those big-ass D-Linemen will eventually f*** up anyway. SO, they just need to be constantly penalized and not given a chance to play the game.
On the other side, we have a couple of jack-asses running all over the field, ramming everyone with their helmets, flipping off the coaches, mooning the crowd and punching opponents in the nuts ('member that one time that happened to Dave DeCoite?)
Pretty hard to stop the flag-happy pessimists when the game is disrupted by the nut puncher.
Pretty hard to stop the flag-thrower when you have loud mouth a-holes with severe psychological damage running around, trying their best to sabotage any cooperative efforts.
I agree with your last three paragraphs I quoted here, or I at least understand the point you're making. But I think the analogies in the first three paragraphs miss the mark a bit.
When it comes to this topic of "toxic masculinity," the analogy is more like this: A certain player violates the rules with excessive celebration, but rather than he alone receiving the penalty, each player on his team is also individually flagged because they are associated with him, but for no other (good) reason. Because this one schmuck lacked self-control and sound judgment, the rest of his teammates also receive personal fouls, and from now on will be watched with suspicion and held to an arbitrarily determined, nebulous standard. So from that point forward, none of his teammates celebrate when they win. None of them are happy about scoring a touchdown, getting a first down, or even suiting up and running out of the tunnel. They are unsure of whose standards they should be following and are afraid to offend one of the refs and bring a penalty on themselves and their teammates.
Let's move the discussion off the field, now: As a result of all the allegations against men, many men become weak, irresponsible, and passive. They learn to keep their thoughts to themselves, mind their own business, and say nothing to anyone. They don't take initiative, they don't look out for others, and they do as little as possible to get by. They don't know who to trust or confide in, and they become a shell of the person they could be if they were allowed to be themselves. There is danger in self-expression when you have been told you are the problem, and that you are "toxic."
As hard as it may be to silence the "nut puncher" or the "flag thrower," a rational, reasonable, human being can see they do not represent the group and would not label them as such. But that's the problem. Those who are throwing out the "culture of sexism" and "toxic masculinity" labels are not rational, reasonable human beings. They are intellectually lazy. They demand that others tolerate their worldview but refuse to tolerate (and even vilify) others whose worldview doesn't agree with theirs. This is morally inconsistent, and they should be called out for it.
The "toxic masculinity" label is an unwarranted generalization: just because something may be true of one man in one instance, it is not true of all men in all instances. This is flagrant sexism.
Spanky said:The more posts I read from GG, I become confused about what she believes to be true in this entire smoke screen referenced as a Culture of Sexism. Does GG lean more to the beliefs of Lisa Davey and others of that extreme group?
reinell30 said:I got an idea. Opening home game, every EGrizzer will meet at my tailgate and we will all meet each other and have a group hug. Then we will get drunk and enjoy the game. Talking about this in person, before we get drunk can clear the air. You folks who live in Missoula can invite the naysayers to join us so we can clear the sexism air for them.
Spanky said:The more posts I read from GG, I become confused about what she believes to be true in this entire smoke screen referenced as a Culture of Sexism. Does GG lean more to the beliefs of Lisa Davey and others of that extreme group?
PlayerRep said:I resent your phrase referring to "older men" and demand a retraction or re-phrasing. Unless your friends are even older than I am.
Spanky said:The more posts I read from GG, I become confused about what she believes to be true in this entire smoke screen referenced as a Culture of Sexism. Does GG lean more to the beliefs of Lisa Davey and others of that extreme group?
GGNez said:Extreme remarks cause extreme reactions and assumptions. A couple of posters have spoon-fed a goldmine to those who think football supporters are malicious woman-haters. We've mostly learned to scroll past their posts; maybe even feel sorry for them that they have never learned to relate to the opposite sex in a healthy manner. It IS sad. But, deleting this discussion literally or figuratively isn't going to do anything other than ensure that we maintain the status-quo. Page 26....pretty solid evidence that the status-quo isn't working for most people.
AllWeatherFan said:GGNez said:Extreme remarks cause extreme reactions and assumptions. A couple of posters have spoon-fed a goldmine to those who think football supporters are malicious woman-haters. We've mostly learned to scroll past their posts; maybe even feel sorry for them that they have never learned to relate to the opposite sex in a healthy manner. It IS sad. But, deleting this discussion literally or figuratively isn't going to do anything other than ensure that we maintain the status-quo. Page 26....pretty solid evidence that the status-quo isn't working for most people.
Well, I get that, but on the other hand:
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GGNez said:Extreme remarks cause extreme reactions and assumptions. A couple of posters have spoon-fed a goldmine to those who think football supporters are malicious woman-haters. We've mostly learned to scroll past their posts; maybe even feel sorry for them that they have never learned to relate to the opposite sex in a healthy manner. It IS sad. But, deleting this discussion literally or figuratively isn't going to do anything other than ensure that we maintain the status-quo. Page 26....pretty solid evidence that the status-quo isn't working for most people.
AZGrizFan said:GGNez said:Extreme remarks cause extreme reactions and assumptions. A couple of posters have spoon-fed a goldmine to those who think football supporters are malicious woman-haters. We've mostly learned to scroll past their posts; maybe even feel sorry for them that they have never learned to relate to the opposite sex in a healthy manner. It IS sad. But, deleting this discussion literally or figuratively isn't going to do anything other than ensure that we maintain the status-quo. Page 26....pretty solid evidence that the status-quo isn't working for most people.
And conversely, a couple of posters here on the other side have spoon-fed a goldmine to those who think that supporters of equal rights for all really are just people who want to force us all to live THEIR version of what they believe our lives should look like; they've reinforced the image of that group as loons, steadfast in their misguided beliefs, facts be damned...that their agenda is more important than actually getting the facts right. They've reinforced the image of that group as individuals incapable of having a civil conversation about said agenda without devolving into name calling, slander, mocking and vicious attacks. They've reinforced the image of that group as one who firmly believes that THEIR version of the truth is the ONLY version of the truth that matters and anyone who deigns to disagree with any of the efforts of their group should be shouted down, publicly humiliated and not let to speak their mind.
I feel sorry for them because it's apparent they haven't learned to relate to their OWN sex in a healthy manner. And I've learned to also scroll past THEIR posts.
GGNez said:AZGrizFan said:GGNez said:Extreme remarks cause extreme reactions and assumptions. A couple of posters have spoon-fed a goldmine to those who think football supporters are malicious woman-haters. We've mostly learned to scroll past their posts; maybe even feel sorry for them that they have never learned to relate to the opposite sex in a healthy manner. It IS sad. But, deleting this discussion literally or figuratively isn't going to do anything other than ensure that we maintain the status-quo. Page 26....pretty solid evidence that the status-quo isn't working for most people.
And conversely, a couple of posters here on the other side have spoon-fed a goldmine to those who think that supporters of equal rights for all really are just people who want to force us all to live THEIR version of what they believe our lives should look like; they've reinforced the image of that group as loons, steadfast in their misguided beliefs, facts be damned...that their agenda is more important than actually getting the facts right. They've reinforced the image of that group as individuals incapable of having a civil conversation about said agenda without devolving into name calling, slander, mocking and vicious attacks. They've reinforced the image of that group as one who firmly believes that THEIR version of the truth is the ONLY version of the truth that matters and anyone who deigns to disagree with any of the efforts of their group should be shouted down, publicly humiliated and not let to speak their mind.
I feel sorry for them because it's apparent they haven't learned to relate to their OWN sex in a healthy manner. And I've learned to also scroll past THEIR posts.
Agreed.
AZGrizFan said:GGNez said:AZGrizFan said:GGNez said:Extreme remarks cause extreme reactions and assumptions. A couple of posters have spoon-fed a goldmine to those who think football supporters are malicious woman-haters. We've mostly learned to scroll past their posts; maybe even feel sorry for them that they have never learned to relate to the opposite sex in a healthy manner. It IS sad. But, deleting this discussion literally or figuratively isn't going to do anything other than ensure that we maintain the status-quo. Page 26....pretty solid evidence that the status-quo isn't working for most people.
And conversely, a couple of posters here on the other side have spoon-fed a goldmine to those who think that supporters of equal rights for all really are just people who want to force us all to live THEIR version of what they believe our lives should look like; they've reinforced the image of that group as loons, steadfast in their misguided beliefs, facts be damned...that their agenda is more important than actually getting the facts right. They've reinforced the image of that group as individuals incapable of having a civil conversation about said agenda without devolving into name calling, slander, mocking and vicious attacks. They've reinforced the image of that group as one who firmly believes that THEIR version of the truth is the ONLY version of the truth that matters and anyone who deigns to disagree with any of the efforts of their group should be shouted down, publicly humiliated and not let to speak their mind.
I feel sorry for them because it's apparent they haven't learned to relate to their OWN sex in a healthy manner. And I've learned to also scroll past THEIR posts.
Agreed.
Good. Now, about that Bud Light issue. :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
reinell30 said:I got an idea. Opening home game, every EGrizzer will meet at my tailgate and we will all meet each other and have a group hug. Then we will get drunk and enjoy the game. Talking about this in person, before we get drunk can clear the air. You folks who live in Missoula can invite the naysayers to join us so we can clear the sexism air for them.
RobGriz said:reinell30 said:I got an idea. Opening home game, every EGrizzer will meet at my tailgate and we will all meet each other and have a group hug. Then we will get drunk and enjoy the game. Talking about this in person, before we get drunk can clear the air. You folks who live in Missoula can invite the naysayers to join us so we can clear the sexism air for them.
I’m in.
EverettGriz said:No way this gets to 117 pages.