Many people in Missoula love Griz football. Most of these same people also think sexual assault is disgusting, terrifying, and confusing. Before last week, being a Griz fan against sexual assault wasn’t controversial. Now, it seems like party lines have been drawn between the two, and anyone straddling the line has to pick a side.
Less than a week after Jordan Johnson’s trial ended, Missoula shook as the divide between those who are pro-Griz and those who are anti-sexual assault began to tear wide open. In a matter of hours following the not guilty verdict, a Facebook group called “We are ALL Jane Doe” gathered several hundred fans. Soon after, a Jordan Johnson fan page went viral, gaining more than 1,500 “likes” in 36 hours, with one of the moderators of the page posting, “Thanks for all the support. We are all Jordan Johnson.”
What if, instead of allowing rape to divide us as a city, we took action together? How profound would it have been if the Griz football team had made a unified presence at the 1,000 Flowers event last week to honor their mothers, sisters and girlfriends? How noble would it have been if the event organizers had embraced them?
The truth is, one-in-five women will be sexually assaulted. One-in-five. Twenty percent. This is a pandemic and it affects everyone because these women are our friends, family, and community leaders. They are Griz players and fans, too. If an astronomical 20 percent of women in our country were unemployed, politicians would be passing bills left and right to lower it. If 20 percent of women were murdered in this country, there would be rallies in the streets to stop the violence. But for sexual assault, we have very strange reactions. We often call these women liars, sluts, jersey-chasers, bitter women scorned by the men they wanted. If they had a drink, we say they asked to be raped by putting themselves in dangerous situations. If they weren’t virgins before the rape, then they led their assailant on and were just promiscuous whores.
Rape is not something we discuss over our dinner table at night, so it takes a very long time for the science behind rape to permeate our culture. As citizens, we need to educate ourselves about rape and rape victims. It should be common knowledge that rape victims sometimes act in contradictory ways, most know their assailant quite well, and most (88 percent) never see their assailant convicted.
We should understand that the pain of rape is rarely resolved in a courtroom, and rather must be soothed in a unified community.
As a city, we need to say that we will not tolerate violence against women from anyone, anytime. Taking a stand doesn’t have to mean choosing a side. We need to stop shaming accusers and condemning the accused before we even know their stories.
We love Griz football, and we will never turn a blind eye to sexual assault.
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Missoulian? Ya' out there? Why can't any of you write a piece like this?