All of this is 100% true. Good for this former player. All the best.
Not to mention all the head games he played with the girls. Having had a kid in the program that was cut right before he left I absolutely have sour grapes. He played head games with her all year. Unless you were one of 7 players that he loved head games were played with all of them.
At her new school which is about the same level as the Griz were last year she is turning heads. New coach can’t understand why she didn’t get time at Montana.
Overall I guess we should thank him. It could have been a few more years of psychological damage. She is in a great place now and since she is gone we can cheer for her old teammates who she loved.
As still a potential Griz mom, what kind of head games are we talking about? After all J is still there, my daughter was just emailing with him, and usually they coach similar to the way their head coaches have.
I just think the term “head games” can mean so many different things and sometimes it isn’t accurate in my summation.
(some times is right on of course)
I had a niece who played basketball for a d1 school and I was told for years that her head and associate coach were always “playing head games with her”. It was sad to hear and I believed it but didn’t get specifics.
They played a school near us and we met my brother and his family to watch. When she got minutes her effort level didn’t seem as high as the other girls and she didn’t seem as fit. And she made obvious errors with passing etc.
A couple weeks later, I asked my brother and sister in law what the coach specifically says that are “playing head games”.
Apparently, he would say things like “keep working hard at practice” and “we’re seeing improvements in XYZ” when she’d go in to talk about playing time. She’d just get generic stuff like that. To me that isn’t head games… that’s trying to motivate and encourage yet not being unrealistic promising time, etc.
The few girls that play above her have stats to back why they are playing. And yes their stats are able to be better because they get more time. If if you figure out their stats per minute play it still shows why my niece isn’t playing much because she isn’t very effective.
Coaches aren’t going to say to kids “you’re a practice player.” But it’s a thing. We all know it. But she’s obviously a “practice player” where she is and if she transferred there’s a chance she’d move up on the totem pole based on the other teams roster. My brother sadly would see this as justification that her old coach was wrong… cause he, like many parents, can’t objectively recognize his daughter’s skill level isn’t as good as some others. IMO, he should just be proud of her and her journey cause most don’t even make it to that level.
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