I appreciated everything Jim brought to the table, just wish he could have made more impact on players who apparently did not care what their actions resulted in.
With that said, I got to know the O'days, while coaching baseball in Jumbo East LL. I was fortunate to coach a great group of kids, and deal with great families, amongst those, Brian, and his parents. It is always a little awkward getting to know new kids, and families every year, and as kids get older, the more difficult it gets. Families like the O'days made coaching so much easier, and I wish all families would pass on their attitude to every family when it comes to letting coaches coach, and stepping aside.
Not one time, did any of the O'days question our coaching at any time, no matter the circumstances at hand. They naturally trusted coaches with their son. When they did say something, it was always encouraging, and positive. They never one time got into the politics created by other parents, and players. During a bad incident, or difficult decision, it was always nice to see the O'days. Why? We knew they were always positive, and passed that along to their son, Brian. We as coaches would never have to worry about how they felt, or what they thought. We knew, without doubt, they trusted us coaches in every aspect.
One year, Brian, hurt his wrist, or shoulder, playing basketball. He felt so bad, and was at practice and games supporting the team, and offering encouragement. He wanted to be out there helping the team. After a few days of thinking, and observing Brian, we knew he wanted to do whatever he could for the team. We talked to the O'days about the injury, and if they would be open to Brian still contributing to the team. Sure enough, they said "If Brian wants to play, we are on board." As it turned out, Brian got his one inning of defense, and one at bat (just bunting or looking to walk), and beyond that he became our team's designated pinch runner (little league rules). He absolutely loved it the few weeks of contributing the only way he could.
Most parents would not have had the open and willing mindset they did. Things like that are why their son was a team captain, and leader. He learned a lot from his parents. Believe it or not, that brought our team more together, and we had a much better season than we were expecting.
I cannot speak as to if Jim's trust in the coaches and players he oversees was handled with the same mind set or not. I can say, dealing with the O'days, as a coach, was a breathe of fresh air for us coaches, and their attitude was one we loved. Based on my experience with them, I very much believe Jim believed 100% in his coaches, and how they handled things. I cannot see Jim as being a micro manager type, or interfering with the people he work with/for. He trusted, and supported his coaches, just like he did everyone.
Too bad, a few too many people were not responsible, or smart enough to realize how good they really had it with his approach. I don't think he was a victim of the decision, but a victim of a few too many given a foot, and taking a mile.
Again, my best to the Jim, and his family. They have every reason in the world to be proud of the family they are.
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