HelenaHandBasket said:
But everyone here knows you are a Stitt basher, so I am not sure it is entirely untruthful.
My position has always been, don't blame the player, whatever their reasons, it is generally nobody's business unless it is an organizational reason (abuse, harrassment, injury etc). My point has always been that when players do leave, responsible coaches will not leave rumors and innuendo swirling about. They will do the minimum of saying "So-and-so has chosen to leave the program. We appreciate his contributions and loyalty to the Montana Grizzlies and offer best wishes for his future success."
It's just that tough.
The Cats were able to do precisely that with Hoy, and that obviously did not require high-powered genius and extreme sensitivity. It only required the ordinary common sense and decency that seems to be lacking at UM for some reason. It is simply a professional gesture befitting a classy program and a last kind gesture to kids who wanted to do nothing more than play for the UM Grizzlies and, no matter the circumstances of their departure, must consider it a tremendous disappointment. These are for the most part still kids. The Coach doesn't get into sniping at his own players and former players, not a fully fledged adult coach anyway.
Currently, UM has a hard time just doing ordinary civility. There is a notable tendency to do the opposite, both on staff and due to jerks like you who like to make player's private lives your personal business, break down their doors so you can claim "i KNOW!!! I KNOW!!" like a bunch of damn gossipy schoolgirls along with a coach, and a "fan" community that wants to make sure the whole world knows that so-and-so played "terrible" and "it sure isn't my fault," and that so-and-so was "lazy," or "his hands were too small and we suspect his high school used smaller footballs to account for his record" as UM's nice send-off to a 17 year old kid in life's transition, you know, just to make sure future coaches and opportunities, friends and family are "aware" of the "problems."
That the kid they worshipped in the highest praises when recruited -- grown men in full swoon -- quickly becomes "it's a good thing we got rid of him," adding all sorts of innuendo and burden on the way out the door. And then any forum thread about the kid leaving quickly becomes a shark-fest. Welcome to the real world at UM, kids.
That above all, "it's NOT MY FAULT!!" Because "We don't lose in our house!" and "My offense is better than any defense" and so if anything goes wrong, "IT'S THE PLAYERS' FAULT!"
It is irrespective of his field performance,
just a personal accumulation of sport experiences on my part -- fifty years worth now -- that makes me adverse to big talk, chest-thumping, and bus-under throwing. I don't like it, and if you do like it, that's your problem, not mine.
As I have repeatedly stated, I welcomed Stitt's appointment, I think he's smart, and I look forward to the field of play strategies. That doesn't mean that I have to call you up and borrow your prom dress, pom poms and IUD every time I happen to think there's a cause for caution and concern on the manner of doing
some things.
But, you're a cheerleader, and cheerleaders appoint themselves to do a job, and one job only.
Fortunately for you, it is a mindless task.
Words of advice: "Keep it classy, Coach."