ilovethecats
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as i said, it's mainly my mom who has a great deal of knowledge in this area. although i did major in both criminal justice and sociology as i thought my path in life would follow in her footsteps. although, her specialty is dealing with women victims and the issues that come in situations like these, i focused on neglected kids and seperate issues. i am no longer in that field and couldn't be doing something more opposite than my current line of work. so i am far from an expert on these matters.
i do recall something i learned early in the game when i was involved in social work that i think fits here perfectly to back up my previous statements. people have questions for the "victim" and they are certainly justified. and in this case, it is in fact possible that jj might in fact be the victim. we don't know. anyway, i agree it's fair to ask why the women didn't scream for help or why she didn't rush to the police. but to disregard her claims because of these factors is shortsighted. and one could make similar assumptions about jj. why isn't he being more vocal about the situation? why hasn't he come out to the papers or news to proclaim his innocence? why hasn't he sued the woman for false accusations? why hasn't he turned his phone over to the police to search his calls and texts? how come he hasn't found several witnesses to offer up an alibi yet? do i expect him to do these things? of course not. that is my point.
it's fine to ask questions of the accuser, and it's just as fine to ask questions of the accused. but to be so naieve to dismiss the claims simply because the alleged victim didn't scream for help or rush to the police is wrong. there are tens of thousands of victims in this country of all sorts of crimes from rape to child abuse that never reported to the police, or only did so after years and years. it's not uncommon at all and it's unfortunate.
i do recall something i learned early in the game when i was involved in social work that i think fits here perfectly to back up my previous statements. people have questions for the "victim" and they are certainly justified. and in this case, it is in fact possible that jj might in fact be the victim. we don't know. anyway, i agree it's fair to ask why the women didn't scream for help or why she didn't rush to the police. but to disregard her claims because of these factors is shortsighted. and one could make similar assumptions about jj. why isn't he being more vocal about the situation? why hasn't he come out to the papers or news to proclaim his innocence? why hasn't he sued the woman for false accusations? why hasn't he turned his phone over to the police to search his calls and texts? how come he hasn't found several witnesses to offer up an alibi yet? do i expect him to do these things? of course not. that is my point.
it's fine to ask questions of the accuser, and it's just as fine to ask questions of the accused. but to be so naieve to dismiss the claims simply because the alleged victim didn't scream for help or rush to the police is wrong. there are tens of thousands of victims in this country of all sorts of crimes from rape to child abuse that never reported to the police, or only did so after years and years. it's not uncommon at all and it's unfortunate.